Today is my 14th wedding anniversary; oh my stinkin’ heck! How did we make it this far? It’s much easier said than done. Choices and grace, God’s grace and mercy and the choices we made along the way. Choices to love each other even when we didn’t feel like it, choices to forgive each other for our mistakes, choices to go to God for direction instead of a sympathetic shoulder, and a million other choices along the way. Point being, they all add up to a marriage that lasts. It’s not a magic formula, it’s a choice. We choose to love each other, even when we don’t feel like it, especially when we don’t feel like it. In my experience, the choices that are the hardest to make are usually the ones that are the most important.
A favorite scripture of mine that has always been very effective at pushing the junk out of my brain is this: “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” (Philippians 4:8 NKJV)
It’s so easy to think the worst, to think the bad stuff, it just kind of comes naturally to me, unfortunately. I’ve always been a glass half empty kind of girl. But this really helped me, even if I just focused on one positive thing, at least it was something and it was a place to start. You’ve got to start somewhere, right?