Do you ever get so mad you could cuss? Me too. Uh, yeah. A lot. And sometimes I have to repent. A lot. So the other day this person, who shall remain nameless, was just daring me to blow my stack. I needed an intervention to save me from being a total jerk. I needed time to cool off but that was a luxury I didn’t have.
So what the heck do you do when you’re hurt, mad, frustrated, want to scream obscenities and write an ugly Facebook status? How do you relieve the pressure when you feel like your head is about to literally pop off? It’s real easy to sit behind a laptop and preach about how to get over it, but unfortunately, I wasn’t in the safety of my house, I was right there in the thick of it. So I started with the only thing I knew to do, I prayed in the Spirit. Thank God for the Holy Spirit, that’s all I can say.
Once I got out of that frying pan, I went to the Word of God. Proverbs 4:24 was helpful. Put away from you a fraudulent mouth, and perverse lips put far from you. Let your eyes look right on, and let your eyelids look straight before you. Ponder the path of your feet, and let all your ways be established. Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: remove your foot from evil.
This scripture actually really helped me, and I’ve read it before but it never struck me this way until today. It tells me to look straight ahead. It says to me, when there are arrows coming at you from the right and left, when your ears are blowing out steam, don’t turn to the right or left, just keep going straight ahead. The moment you turn your head, you’re just asking for trouble. If you keep looking straight ahead and keep moving forward, then you can’t focus on the hurt or the mad, can you? Looking back and side to side just keeps you in the middle of the problem. And replaying the situation over and over just keeps the hurt and frustration fresh. Thinking about what they said and what you said and what you wish you had said only traps you back in the junk. We have to do what Dory from Finding Nemo says, “Just keep swimming.”
I know that’s a simple thought, and there’s so much more to be said about forgiveness and dealing with conflict, etc. But this really helped me through a tough spot and I hope it helps you too.