Don’t be an island

I went to a funeral today. It was for the grandmother of my precious niece and nephews who had lost her brave battle with cancer.

A notion has been rolling around on the inside of me for days now, and today’s experiences just brought it into clearer focus. It is this: Don’t be an island.

People need each other. Families need each other. Women need other women. Men, yes men, need each other. I don’t care what they say, when the chips are down, they need each other.

I tend to be a hider. I’ve never been a girly girl. I’m not into makeup and hair and shopping and In Style magazine (much to my husband’s chagrin). My natural tendency is to keep my problems to myself and turn inward. But the Lord has been impressing on me recently how important it is to share one another’s burdens and be there for each other.

I am so incredibly blessed to have a couple of very special friends who I can really talk to and share my innermost feelings with and they are safe. This is a rare thing.  As I’ve journeyed down this road of life, I have leaned on these friends, and they have leaned on me. And thankfully, when one of us is down, the other is up. But it’s so important to have a Godly friend who will listen to you, and speak the Word to you, and share wisdom with you, and pray for you. As iron sharpens iron, these friends make me a better, stronger, more powerful woman. (Proverbs 27:17)

The Bible says for us to pray for one another that ye may be healed. (James 5:16) And not just physical healing, but healing in a family situation, a job situation, or anything that needs intervention from Heaven. That means if you need something, a breakthrough in an area, go pray for someone else that also needs a breakthrough. It really works! Not only is it a Biblical principle, but it makes it impossible for us to focus on ourselves. We can’t be pouring our gifts, love, time, talent, and prayer into someone else and still be focusing on our own problems, it’s just impossible. I dare you to try it.

Make yourself go to that meeting, or that fellowship. Make yourself call that friend and go meet for coffee. Make yourself offer to help someone. MAKE YOURSELF. And trust me, I know it’s pulling teeth. I don’t have any more teeth in my mouth because I’ve pulled them all out trying to come up with reasons and excuses why I can’t; but you know what? I can. I may be asking Santa Claus for dentures this Christmas, but God gives me strength, God redeems my time, God blesses me back in astounding ways when I give into someone else’s life.

This blog . . . it is silly and funny and short and not all that spiritual, but people tell me it is a blessing. So I keep at it. And when I hear back from you all that it is a blessing to you, that blesses me. It’s a cycle. So we can either fight it or roll with it, but I’m learning it’s much more fun to roll with it.