Time-out can work… it takes longer and it’s more agonizing for all involved, but it can accomplish the task. Spanking is biblical and it’s faster. Emotional healing can come with therapy and time… it takes longer and it’s more agonizing for all involved, but it can accomplish the task. Forgiveness is biblical and it’s faster.
I think it’s funny that we all want everything so dadgum fast, but when it comes to getting our souls fixed, we want to take the long way.
We want to get rich quick, we want to lose weight overnight, we even want microwave popcorn and twenty-minutes or it’s free pizza delivery. But we’d rather hold on to a hurt and let it fester and ooze for a few years before we embrace forgiveness and let it go.
God’s way is better, and in this regard, it’s actually faster.
Let’s say you hurt me, really hurt me. I cry about it. It’s that sad to me. I mentally prepare myself to be hurt for a long time. I say, “I don’t think I can ever forgive you.” And I stoically try to move forward with life, but this wound is slowing me down. I’m perfectly happy to move along at a snail’s pace because it feels good to my flesh to hold onto that hurt. But if I took it before the Lord and forgave you, it could be over with and healed up and I could move forward, unhindered.
Why don’t we do this? Why will we do whatever it takes to get our food at the speed of light, but we don’t hurry to get rid of heavy, painful baggage? We need to get things in the right order here.
The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, And his glory [is] to overlook a transgression (Proverbs 19:11).
And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you (Ephesians 4:32).
… Put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do (Colossians 3:12-13).
Be quick to forgive. It’s a challenge, trust me, I know. But I also know that some of the greatest blessings in my life have come after I’ve been hurt and I chose to forgive. God is a big God and He can bring beautiful things out of the biggest messes. We just have to give Him the chance.