My son, Jaxon, and I have a running disagreement. He says Lynn’s Chevy pickup is silver, I say it’s champagne. When I first heard him say it, I was confused because it REALLY is champagne. But in Jaxon’s eyes, it REALLY was silver.
I honestly don’t know if at that point in time Jaxon didn’t understand the difference between silver and champagne, or if his eyes were actually seeing something different from mine. But the bottom line is, I believed one thing and he believed another. Does that always have to mean that one of us is wrong? Can I make the mental adjustment and just say, we disagree?
Does disagreement have to be a deal-breaker?
How would Jesus behave in this situation? Well, from everything I’ve ever read about Jesus, he turned it back to the Word of God. When he was tempted by the devil he used scripture as a weapon. And the only weapon! He didn’t fly off and say what an idiot Satan was, he just quoted the Word.
So when someone says disparaging things about you, whose word are you going to believe?
Are you an idiot? Or are you the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus?
Are you inept, are you incapable? Or can you do all things through Christ who strengthens you?
Are you doomed to fail, are you a loser? Or are you created in God’s image with gifts and callings that are special, just to you?
Whose report are you going to believe?
Romans 8:1 says, There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Real Christianity is loving those who hurt us, forgiving those who wrong us, and not condemning those who don’t agree with us. You see, we have to apply that scripture to them as well. Just as we can’t let the devil condemn us, we cannot condemn them. We have to let it go and let God sort it out. That’s where peace can come in and we can take our hands off the sticky situation and let our loving and amazing God work it out.
I realized that Jaxon and I can disagree on the color of Lynn’s truck, and neither one of us is wrong. There are some battles that we just don’t have to win! And maybe realizing that fact is winning the battle.
People are different, we think differently, we hurt differently, we react to pain differently, and God made us that way. I don’t know why it’s so difficult sometimes, but hey, it’s not my job to know why we are all so different. It’s my job to love the Lord with all my heart, soul, and strength, and love my neighbor as myself. It’s OK if we disagree. I like mayo on my sandwich, you may like mustard… different strokes for different folks. And that’s OK.
Whatever struggle you are facing, I encourage you to go back to the Word of God and see what God says about it. Excavate those precious nuggets of gold, write them down, meditate on them, and let them be a soothing balm to your soul.